Adoptees have an amazing advantage. We live outside society. We are Steppenwolves. Others cannot see the things we can. We are driven to rip the mask off the facade. We are driven to explore the darkened alleys of life no others dare to venture down.
Inside my Ghost Kingdom, I’ve come across both sides of the realm: the sane and “insane”; the “normal” and the outcasts; the orphans and those who are “loved and belong”; the addicts and the “clean and pure” …
But, I’ve witnessed more honesty and wisdom in a group session of 4 addicts than from 40 well-paid corporate stiffs. Truth be told, I’ve learned just as much, if not more, from a Hobo than a CEO.
And because we see both sides of society, we must become the deftest of jugglers. Balancing our expectations with those of society.
We were once seen as threats to society when it was [more myopic / smaller] focused on than it is today. With the death of religion in the Western world, the threats to social morals once posed by adoptees have been relegated to the dustbin of a quaint, but not too distant past. Good riddance. Society finally has more to worry about than the presence of bastards among us. And while the media has created legions of bogeymen to keep us awake at night from terrorism to pedophiles, the real and imagined fears of moral decay still persevere. One such campaign is against alcoholics. Do-gooders have taken a page out of history and with the power of modern media, turned drinkers into the pariah du jour. The temperance movement used the printed media of the day, fabricated medical evidence, and public shaming to try to tame the beast. The original temperance movement used the same Achilles heal that still works today — the threat to the family, but particularly to the children. From the late 18th century, plays about men destroying their families and leaving their children destitute and in workhouses or orphanages began to push against the prevalance of cheap gin and the allure of the pub and the saloon.